| Abstract | Obiteljsko nasilje je jedan od sramnih fenomena koji presijeca čitavu ljudsku povijest, uništava pojedinca, ruši temelje obitelji i dovodi ozbiljno u pitanje bitne vrednote društva i Crkve. I društvo i Crkva dugo su vremena šutjeli pred zlokobnim licem obiteljskog nasilja. Današnji senzibilitet međutim kao i struktura suvremene obitelji to više jednostavno ne podnosi niti dopušta. Obitelj je iznimno bitna za društvo i Crkvu, previše je dragocjena, „dragocjeno je blago“ za svakog čovjeka, da bi se o obiteljskom nasilju moglo i smjelo šutjeti. Nasilje u takvom obličju je zlo i grijeh. Ništa ga ne može opravdati. U svom se radu bavimo upravo tom problematikom s ciljem njezina boljeg upoznavanja i vrednovanja. Poradi toga najprije izlažemo čisto deskriptivnom metodom različite tipove obiteljskog nasilja, a to su: nasilje između partnera, nasilje roditelja nad djecom, nasilje među braćom i sestrama, te nasilje nad starijima u obitelji. Svako od tih navedenih nasilja može imati različito obličje, a najčešće se navodi psihičko, fizičko, ekonomsko i seksualno zlostavljanje o kojima u svom radu progovaramo vrlo kratko, gotovo u natuknicama ističući istovremeno njihovu međusobnu povezanost. Primjećujemo da je nasilje nerijetko kao začarani ili zatvoreni krug, gdje nekadašnja žrtva postaje nasilnik u odrasloj dobi, a nekadašnji nasilnik postaje žrtvom u primjerice staračkoj dobi. A sve to u obitelji, osnovnoj stanici društva kako joj tepaju sociolozi. Nakon rasprave o nasilju i obitelji, pitamo se kako Crkva, koja nedvojbeno staje na stranu žrtve, vidi i vrednuje obiteljsko nasilje i što bi crkveni ljudi, hijerarhija i vjernici, mogli i trebali učiniti u eliminaciji toga obiteljskog zla. Koja su to moguća i prihvatljiva rješenja? Između mnogih moralnih problema, posebno propitujemo mogućnost i opravdanost rastave koja je česta posljedica obiteljskog nasilja. |
| Abstract (english) | Domestic violence is one of the shameful phenomen that cuts through the entire human history, destroys the foundations of the family and seriously calls into question the essential values of society and the Church. Both society and Church have been silent for a long time about this sinful face of domestic violence. Today’s sensibility, however, as well as the structure of the modern family, simply no longer tolerates or allows it. The family is extremely important for society and the Church, it is too precious, “it is a precious treasure”, for every human being, so that domestic violence can and should be kept silent. Violence in such a form is evil and sin. Nothing can justify it. In our work, we are dealing with this issue with the aim of better understanding and evaluating it. For this reason, we first expose, but purely descriptive, different types of domestic violence, namely: violence between partners, parental violence against children, violence between siblings, and violence against the elderly in the family. Each of these violence can have a different form, and the most common are physical, psychological, economic and sexual abuse, which we talk about very briefly in our work, almost in notes, emphasizing at the same time their interconnection. We note that violence is often like a vicious or closed circle where the former victim becomes a bully in adulthood and the former bully becomes a victim, for example in old age, And all of this, happens in the family, the basic cell of society as sociologists like to call it. After discussing violence and the family, we wonder how the Church, which undoubtedly stands on the side of the victim, sees and values domestic violence, and what people in Church, hierarchy and believers, could and should do to eliminate this family evil. What are the possible and acceptable solutions? Among the many moral problems, we particularly question the possibility and justification of divorce that is a frequent consequence of domestic violence. |
